Marriage Revival
End the cycle of fighting and pain/disconnection, and learn how to lead at home so you can win back her trust, respect, and love
She has one foot out of the door, maybe two. Maybe she’s texting someone else late at night. Maybe it’s turned physical. You’re too close to losing everything you’ve worked so hard to build and you know it’s not all her fault — but the patterns of blaming each other are so entrenched, it’s hard to see the way back to the place where your relationship began.
When she looked at you with absolute faith that you had her back. When you looked at her, you felt like you could do anything as long as you were together.
Now, when she looks at you — if she looks at you — it’s with hurt, disdain, or indifference. And when you look at her, you feel hopeless and confused. You’re walking on eggshells to avoid setting off another argument.
But the fact that you’re here means it’s not a hopeless situation. You have far more power to fix these dynamics than you realize, even if you’ve already tried couple’s therapy.
I’m Greg Murray,
a Harvard-trained psychologist and Immunity to Change Coach
I help men break out of patterns that erode marriages
Break These Patterns
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Jumping in to “solve” her problems or using logic instead of actively listening with empathy
02
Getting defensive, pushing back fast and hard to set the record straight
03
Neediness, validation-seeking, relying on her approval to feel okay
04
Doing “nice” things while expecting to get sex or intimacy in return
05
Rehashing the problems again and again with no real changes
06
Checking her phone, telling her when to be home and who she can be with
These are the marriage killers
Just as much as infidelity, addiction, and dishonesty, nobody does them on purpose. These are the habits that stand in the way of keeping your family together.
what is it like being locked into a pattern?
Say your goal is to avoid escalating into a fight when you feel criticized by your wife, but you keep interrupting her when she says something you disagree with. Even though you know this will only prolong and intensify the argument without resolving the conflict, you can’t help it.
Where Did the pattern start?
This pattern often comes from growing up in a house with blame, shame, and an unspoken point system where if you were ‘wrong’ you were seen as “bad” or punished. So you not only learned to be ‘right’, you learned to push back hard. What was a survival adaptation then has become a roadblock to intimacy.
How Immunity to Change Coaching comes in
When you become aware of the fears and underlying beliefs that keep you in conflict with your partner, you can take steps to overturn those beliefs. With practice, you won’t feel so triggered, you won’t get defensive, and you will be able to listen to what she’s saying so that she feels heard.
This is what builds trust and intimacy, saving your marriage one conversation at a time.
But maybe you’re thinking
“that’s not me, we never fight.”
I have spent more than 1500 hours teaching men the skills to reconnect with their wives. In doing so, I have found some men are confused about why their marriages are falling apart, claiming that, “We never fight.”
They avoided conflict at all costs. One day, she just ‘fell out of love’ and they didn’t know how to fix it.
This dynamic is also fallout from learning, at an early age, that conflict is dangerous, anger is a bad emotion, and doing everything to make her happy will ensure she doesn’t leave. The result: You’ve given her everything (you even stopped watching football because she was bored), and now you’re alone, angry, and confused.
You may fall into these traps even if you’re a successful executive, great at your job, savvy in the business, or a strong team leader — but those skills don’t translate at home because your wife has a lot more power to hurt you, leave you, and ruin what is dearest to you. These high stakes introduce fear, which means you’re either far *more* accommodating at home, or you take that competitiveness that works so well in the office and try to win every argument and control the situation.
Yes, it takes two to destroy a relationship, and she is not perfect or blameless. But trying to fix her won’t fix your marriage.
You only really have control over yourself, and by mastering yourself, you can heal what’s been broken.
When I first met Greg, I was desperate, broken, and needy. His coaching taught me a lot about emotion regulation, active listening, masculine leadership, and creating polarity with my spouse, which were ultimately the tools I needed to turn my relationship around with my wife. I stayed true to my personal values, learned a lot about myself, and created a new level of intimacy with my bride. Since reconciling, we celebrated our 18th anniversary together and have never been closer.
Greg has helped me change my life to be in alignment with who I am and what I believe. From the outsider’s perspective, I was a huge success. But I was miserable behind the scenes because I lost sight of what is important to me. I have a level of peace that I never thought was possible by following his guidance toward living by my values. Greg knows exactly what buttons to push and has a knack for knowing when to encourage you or to give you the tough love that you need at that moment.
Here is what I know to be true
I have seen it play out in hundreds of relationships:
If you love your wife,
can maintain hope,
and are willing to work hard, any marriage can be saved
So many relationships end and families are torn apart because of unhealed trauma and unskilled communication, even when couples love each other and are compatible. But when you learn the skills and are willing to put in the effort, it’s amazing what you can come back from.
My clients love their wives, and are willing to overcome their traumas and get in touch with their emotions to keep their families together. It’s courageous work.
Marriage Revival
Break out of harmful patterns, connect with your purpose, and learn how to lead at home with conflict resolution, values-driven communication, and emotional intelligence and regulation
Foundation Package
Perfect for men who need foundational support and prefer group learning with minimal 1:1 guidance. You’ll have regular check-ins to help you stay on track.
Momentum Package
Perfect for men who need group and personalized coaching to make significant progress in their marriage. You’ll be digging deeper into the root causes of your patterns.
Transformation Package
Perfect for men committed to making major shifts in the face of significant challenges (she’s moved out or filed for divorce, there’s infidelity, there are substantial wounds). You want your best chance at saving your marriage.
This is it.
Foundation
4 - Months-
Community Platform:
Access to a private Facebook group for peer discussion, Q&A, and feedback. -
Group Support:
4 months of Weekly Group Calls
(ongoing group mentorship and advanced discussions) -
Personal Coaching:
One 60-minute onboarding session to set goals and expectations -
Ongoing Support Coaching:
Four 30-minute individual coaching sessions (every other week) to monitor progress
Momentum
4 - Months-
Community Platform:
Access to a private Facebook group for peer discussion, Q&A, and feedback. -
Group Support:
4 months of Weekly Group Calls Guided by Program Themes
(ongoing group mentorship and advanced discussions) -
Personal Coaching:
One 60-minute onboarding session to personalize the program -
Enhanced Coaching:
Six 60-minute individual coaching sessions (every other week) offering deeper, tailored support
Transformation
6 - Months-
Community Platform:
Access to a private Facebook group for peer discussion, Q&A, and feedback.
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Group Support:
6 months of Weekly Group Calls
(ongoing group mentorship and advanced discussions) -
Personal Coaching:
One 60-minute onboarding session to create a customized action plan. -
Intensive 1:1 Coaching:
Twelve 60-minute weekly individual coaching sessions, providing intensive, personalized support -
VIP Support
Email or messaging support between sessions for ongoing guidance and accountability
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What sets Marriage Revival apart
This isn’t couple’s therapy
Couples therapy is a great tool for both of you to come together, air your grievances, learn communication scripts, and see if you want to work things out. It can also be where wives go to justify their decisions to leave. Therapists may pick sides (not always, but it happens), and reopen wounds that make things worse. And often, couple’s therapy is where you try (and fail) to change each other. It’s rarely where you learn how to change yourself.
Changing yourself is the only way this works
I created Marriage Revival after spending 1500 hours coaching men of all backgrounds to turn their marriages around — or stop making the same mistakes in their next relationship after divorce. I can’t guarantee she’ll come back. We don’t have control over her choices. You can only control whether you become the kind of man she’ll want to come back to.
Marriage reconciliation is a long, hard road. There are no quick fixes. When you begin this work, she might already be on the defensive. She might let you have it. This is why the group coaching component is so critical to success because you’re going to need the support of other men who are doing the work alongside you.
My approach is informed by:
- Healthy masculinity that is connected to your values and driven by your purpose
- Emotional intelligence, which means being aware of your own emotions and being able to respond to hers (instead of shutting down, getting defensive, or trying to ‘out logic’ her)
- Immunity to Change method involves changing your skill set and mindset so you can change your behaviors.
- Leadership at home, which means having a vision for what you want your home to be and proactively executing on that vision
- Conflict management and communication techniques that deescalate arguments and turn them into productive conversations where she feels heard and validated (which is going to make her more open to hearing what you have to say… and help you both feel more connected afterward)
- Specific strategies to delay and prevent divorce, a proven system to change her feelings
FAQ
We Are Here To Help You With Any Questions You May Have
Yes, you may break up the payments, and it works a little differently for each tier.
The first step is applying and booking a call so we can ensure the program is a fit for you. We will review the material with transparency. If I do not feel the program will benefit you; I will explain why.
Note: if you blame your wife for everything and never engage in self-examination, or are only looking for an easy hack to convince her to stay, this program will not work for you.
You will benefit the most if you can set aside 30 minutes daily to watch the videos and do the homework (many men listen to the content on their commute or the treadmill and do the homework after the kids are asleep). We also have hour-long group calls once a week at 8 pm Eastern.
If you are committed to saving your marriage and willing to work on yourself, this program is for you. I have designed it to address serious issues like infidelity, separation, and deep wounds. I have seen couples bounce back from all of these issues feeling closer and more connected than ever.
About Greg Murray
Greg Murray, Ed.M
Greg is a Harvard-trained psychologist with a master’s in adult development and psychology. His expertise is in immunity to change coaching, conflict management, communication, emotional intelligence, and behavior change and he has worked with over 400 men specifically on saving marriages. He teaches courses on the Sociology of Emotions at Emory University, where he is pursuing his doctoral degree in social psychology.